The more we try to be happy the more we feel discomfort. Discomfort is normal. We put effort in discomfort by obeing or struggeling. Struggeling knows fight and flight strategies.

Fight strategies are: suppression, arguing, taking charge and self judgement
Flight strategies are: opting out, distraction and substance use

Every moment we have a choise to do an away move or a towards move in life
Overcome experiential avoidence which is a viscious circle

If you experience negative emotions or thoughts use the following formula:
A- Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings
C- Connect with your body
E - Engage in what you're doing

you can also ask the Holy Spirit about happiness